Learn how to appreciate all the little things that motherhood has to offer in 3 simple steps.
You are probably wondering how I know all these details if I was only watching her. Well, I am just that type. So, I - being a mother of 3 who fully understood what she was going through - went over and started a conversation. “How thoughtful, he wants to keep these folks employed by giving them plenty of work to do” I said of the 3-year-old boy’s activities. The mom laughed and we started to talk. And yes, the lines were long so we had a good 15-minute convo about motherhood (this is what happens when you shop at Wegman’s on Saturday morning). She told me a few short stories that she felt explained all the reasons why she was justifiably on the verge of a meltdown. I told her one story that explained why she should never be. I won’t bore you with all the details, but feel free to read my story to understand why I value every single little thing that being a mom brings me.
Later that day I wondered about what it takes to be a happy mom. To appreciate all the little things that motherhood has to offer, and why so many moms appear to mainly focus on the negatives instead. After thinking long and hard about how I learned to be the happiest mom I could be (yes, it is a learned behavior), I developed what I think are the keys to achieving this state of being. Keep reading to learn how to be the happiest mom in 3 simple steps.
Forget about what other people think
Don’t ever be concerned about what other people will think or be embarrassed about anything that goes on with you and your child. Any mother, or anyone who has ever been in the company of children, knows what it is really like. And if they act like they don’t, it’s just a façade. One that takes way too much energy to keep up. The last thing you need to do is add the stress of worry over what others think to your already large motherhood burden.
Give up the illusion of control
You are never in control. Your best ally is influence. Once mothers accept this very basic fact, a weight is lifted. You can approach situations with the right mindset and from the standpoint of achieving a particular outcome rather than dictating every little action. When you try to control, you will forever be stressed because it is an unattainable goal. Just relax and train yourself to go with the flow. Have a plan but always be flexible. Use your power of influence to help guide your child in the direction you’d like; with the understanding that you can never control their actions.
Choose to love your life
You can wake up every day dreading what’s ahead or appreciating every breath. It’s your choice. The way you experience your world starts in your mind, with how you choose to view it. Life as mom is tough. It is full of challenge, responsibility, and is often a thankless job. It is very easy to get sucked down the rabbit hole and focus on the negatives; but you can’t allow yourself to go there. Choose to love every minute of your life and of raising your children.
Internalize the brevity of raising children, who will be adults in the blink of an eye. It will be over before you know it and then you will spend your time reminiscing, looking at old pictures, telling your favorite stories to your daughter/son-in-law, and visiting your grandchildren. Enjoy this time. Enjoy right now. Appreciate every minute. Be the happiest mom you can be and enjoy motherhood.