What I found interesting is that his talk on the Childhood Obesity Summit was all about emotions. Makes sense since kids are picked on for their weight and picked last for sports. These are the notes I took during his talk.
- Parents have to emote. Be emotional. Find a healthy outlet to get your emotions out.
- Feel our own emotions so we teach our children how to do it properly.
- Hear a child's feelings without trying to fix them.
- Everyday offer words of acceptance to your child.
- Ask how they feel about dramatic things in their life. "How do you feel since you haven't been able to play with your friend for a long time?" Children learn to feel their feelings when we ask them questions.
- How to get to your child's heart: Hear (listen) and add a T.
- Get professional help if your child has been through trauma (physical, emotional, sexual, etc.) even if child says they are not bothered. Looks can be deceiving.
Another thing he said that got my attention is that kids may say they don't like sports. What they may really be saying is, "I'm tired of being picked last. I can't physically do the activity even though I really do like sports. Instead I'll just play a video game so I don't risk failure."
JP Sears is a published author. You can pick up his book Whatever Drifts Us HERE.